Soul Talks

Commitment 

 Relationship goals these days are more based on self priorities, 

convenience and comfort zones. Sad but harsh truth. In this " Flaunt in Public, Demoralized in Person" technological era somewhere all of us our losing our aspirations for desired relationships.

Ideally care, concern, affection, empathy,love, responsibility, warmth and commitment are second names of relationship but presently the meaning has saturated to " Free Bird Attitude". Easy relationship goals are adored and practiced by many in order to keep oneself away out of its impact. Who wants responsibility when money is not in flow and monetary insecurity is always a sword of Damocles?

And when commitment comes in perspective the very easy escape is either not to believe in it or run away from it. Easy standardized behavioral pattern of People make them detached from all those who ask for commitment. The obvious cover coat with high collar for such people is " Generation Gap" . If someone settles except commitment the love would be in the air. In spite of all these ascending steps of devalues a very relevant question remains: Is commitment important for relationship?

Yes, it is. Many school of thoughts consider commitment as " Meter of Progression" in relationships. For commitment is like a glue for two people to stay together, to respect each other, to be each others' support system and  above all for all those less important reasons like financial security and recognition in society.The ability to commit shows one as strong and tough, and tough people last long but tough times don't. 

Commitment can't be detachment tool ever rather it harmonizes people and make relationship rooted and enduring of all hardships.

Running away or ignoring from commitment won't let anyone a free bird rather it involves person into false relationships which are temporary, painful and superficial.

Sangeeta Sharma

REFLECTIONS

 Life in disguise

" I can't fake my feelings", said my cousin over phone to me. "I am what I am" , said she with lump in her throat. I was flabbergasted with my own way of suggesting her to ease her life's struggle with what people around wants from us, I, perhaps, dug deep inside my conscious with innumerable tears. Tears that show helplessness, timidity, vulnerability and surrender in front of situations or people , who are epicenter of our life.....life in disguise.

I recall lovely lines from a song from bollywood, " kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahaan nahin milataa , kahin zamin to kahin aasamaan nahin milataa", means nobody gets complete world. Some won't get land and some won't get sky....and the most excruciating thing is  what we don't possess, that kills us inside with hundreds of deaths. Reason is not in genuine desires or wants, rather our being at receiving end to acquire that eternally or even in post natal existence because we in our feelings and emotions are so very true that we can't be dubious in showing to the concerned person, let alone be the person's aloofness from our situation or state of mind , our main focus of compassionate consideration.

Life happens to us with all its true face, with ups and downs with sour and sweet memories and with its ugly and beautiful faces. It doesn't fake itself. It comes to us the way it is, no shilly shallying. Ironically, we grow with aspirations from life , its ways, people and circumstances in just reverse manner. To sustain relations and sustain life itself we fake out our natural inclinations. We tend to wear mask of what we are not so that we can multiply our joys and minus our sorrows.

Alas! Real reflection lies in being hidden.Mirroring real notions would be taken as objection, condemnation or revolt or may be susceptible to balance ways of life.....life in disguise.

What I suggested my cousin to combat her trouble was also nothing but my life in disguise, but I know she was true....in her life which is unmasked, as she can't fake it out.

Life in disguise blindfolds us and the other person to veracity.I am gathering the courage to unfold it and see it even with my close eyes, as life smiles in darkness also.

Sangeeta Sharma