EXPECTATIONS ARE DETACHMENT METER
Of late I have been trying to research on expectations. It is a common saying that expectation is root of all heartache. If man exists in his mortal being then right from infant stage till old age he wraps himself around with blanket of expectations. Feeling of warmth and protection from cold and chilly winds like mindset is practiced and performed when we carry expectations with us. It is continuously sermonized that we should not expect from others and that we should accept the ways,the things, the people and the circumstances the way they are. We all know it yet we feed it in our psyche or mental learning and directing system. The statement leaves us in interrogative mode: Why?
Human beings are by nature and temperament quite desirous and to some extent have preconceived notions due to which his expectation meter is never switched off. Here is our question of why is answered. The stereotype development and upbringing shapes and forms this attitude of expecting from others more than ourselves. The other reason is our education system which confirms these stereotype and preconceived notions.There is very less variation and newness for us to explore and that nails our spontaneity to ruminate beyond the wall on which we are hammered. This lack of first hand investigations and conclusion formation make us trust all that that has already been validated from ages and also practiced.Other deficit is absence of taking initiative and one's comfort zone and what is easier than expecting things to be completed from others. It is indeed a sad state of our endeavor and need to be reformed at the earliest.
If we keep expecting definitely there would be detachments. And it is simple calculation. If we consider human beings as glass full of water and this water as expectations from ourselves like targets we set for our growth in academics sports, co curricular activities, career, in giving what we have to our loved ones like family and friends. The glass is filled till the brim and now if someone expects anything from this glass and start pouring even drops of more water it would spill. Hence, whatever extra is poured in is actually detachment. Nothing more can be adjusted as one is already carrying heavy burden of responsibilities and duties. This is simple logic that we ought to walk our steps without walking someone elses's steps. While walking we leave footprints that would make us feel confident, proud and person without expectations but with acceptance of others the way they are.
If we want to keep detachment of people in dustbin by not expecting we will have more hands to form a chain of cemented relationships and will have shade of protected and warm relationships.
Very simple yet so difficult for us to pocket. What do you say?
Sangeeta Sharma
Of late I have been trying to research on expectations. It is a common saying that expectation is root of all heartache. If man exists in his mortal being then right from infant stage till old age he wraps himself around with blanket of expectations. Feeling of warmth and protection from cold and chilly winds like mindset is practiced and performed when we carry expectations with us. It is continuously sermonized that we should not expect from others and that we should accept the ways,the things, the people and the circumstances the way they are. We all know it yet we feed it in our psyche or mental learning and directing system. The statement leaves us in interrogative mode: Why?
Human beings are by nature and temperament quite desirous and to some extent have preconceived notions due to which his expectation meter is never switched off. Here is our question of why is answered. The stereotype development and upbringing shapes and forms this attitude of expecting from others more than ourselves. The other reason is our education system which confirms these stereotype and preconceived notions.There is very less variation and newness for us to explore and that nails our spontaneity to ruminate beyond the wall on which we are hammered. This lack of first hand investigations and conclusion formation make us trust all that that has already been validated from ages and also practiced.Other deficit is absence of taking initiative and one's comfort zone and what is easier than expecting things to be completed from others. It is indeed a sad state of our endeavor and need to be reformed at the earliest.
If we keep expecting definitely there would be detachments. And it is simple calculation. If we consider human beings as glass full of water and this water as expectations from ourselves like targets we set for our growth in academics sports, co curricular activities, career, in giving what we have to our loved ones like family and friends. The glass is filled till the brim and now if someone expects anything from this glass and start pouring even drops of more water it would spill. Hence, whatever extra is poured in is actually detachment. Nothing more can be adjusted as one is already carrying heavy burden of responsibilities and duties. This is simple logic that we ought to walk our steps without walking someone elses's steps. While walking we leave footprints that would make us feel confident, proud and person without expectations but with acceptance of others the way they are.
If we want to keep detachment of people in dustbin by not expecting we will have more hands to form a chain of cemented relationships and will have shade of protected and warm relationships.
Very simple yet so difficult for us to pocket. What do you say?
Sangeeta Sharma
