Sunday, 16 November 2014

Soul Talks
Thinking that doesn't think to think
My usual way of using alliterations in my sentences catch me lot of interrogations by my readers. "Thinking that doesn't think to think" is one of it.Storm of questions started blowing when I quoted it while discussing in a group chat at whats app. I have personified thinking and made it appear contemplate on various aspects of life. At times we don't even give a notice, hence, thinking that doesn't think.
Perception on life or anything is build by human being's thinking ability. Without concentration it travels to vague places and weird situations. In this situation we are focused not on one thing but on various other irrelevant issues that don't even need our attention. Human Nature, inquisitive and involved, try to pocket everything that it doesn't know even a bit about. In this quest of grabbing and treasuring we get prone to mechanical adaptations that is robot like.
This perfunctory becomes a reflex with so many of us and we speak or act without thinking as we impulsively react to situation where remorse, guilt, self pity or pulling apart attitude starts. Thinking junks. It gets pregnant with negative thoughts. What if such and such thing happens how would I perform...? Knitting web of chaos and seeding negativity becomes routine.
On thinking no one has control, it is like that irrepressible kid who takes a flight to sun ( Like Icarus......In Greek Mythology, Icarus  is the son of the master craftsman Daedulus. Often depicted in art, Icarus and his father attempt to escape from Crete by means of wings that his father constructed from feathers and wax. Icarus' father warns him first of complacency and then of hubris, asking that he fly neither too low nor too high, because the sea's dampness would clog his wings or the sun's heat would melt them. Icarus ignored instructions not to fly too close to the sun, and the melting wax caused him to fall into the sea where he drowned.)  and then melts with wax wings.
Thinking to think good is the only control which we can exercise. It flies and surely will it but the way we routine mechanically to sustain life and then drown in the sea of death, similarly we can channelize it to think positive and constructive. After all this approximately 1130  cubic centimeter organ is a magic box of our own metabolic system and we must work on its functioning worth our smiles and happiness.
An ailing thinking will lead us to the hinterland where everyone and everything is alluring but not consistent. Do you think our existence is just worth this?
Answer is self explanatory. Befriend your thinking, propose her with your passion and seduce her to let you and her overflow in ecstasy and finally marry her for perpetual bond.
Think to think about spreading positive thinking.
Hope I'll not find "Icarus" to this sermon.

Sangeeta Sharma

Thursday, 6 November 2014

Warm Shades

Emotional Attachment and Love

Yesterday while having conversation with a friend I landed up talking about something where " Emotional Attachment" was referred to. I have strong belief in emotional attachment ,whereas friend of mine believes that its not good.
Emotions.....brim bags of wonderful feelings which we carry all the time with us. Attachment......when somebody's emotions get cemented with others. Is it love? No, it is not as I  think. Though it is something open ended, but emotional attachment in no way is a feeling of love.
Emotionally attached person finds solace in the company of a person with whom he is emotionally attached. Trust, faith and confidence in his or her endeavors and suggestions beautify the relation. Expectations are not thorns of hurdles of growth but constructive expectations let each other rise from their ashes rather. Moreover, these emotions are not ropes or ties in other persons expansion of any sort of needs or desires.Not necessarily will it be two sided, as it is self less. Take example of a mother and son...emotionally attached and without words they word everything. When two human beings are emotionally attached they need not to give mortal feel to their bond, merely small caring gestures or instinctive understanding suffice. Expressive ability is not handicap of others approval, mood or circumstances. You are emotionally attached means you are bold in your rapport with the other,whereas you being in love get hesitant,restricted, limited and shy..perhaps.
 Emotional attachment is assurance of security, lasting relation and unbiased mutual comprehension. What we think, we feel, we aspire, we want and what we give to others is always a matter of concern of other but to disentangle us from its complications and complexities and not to offer us more puzzles to solve. They are not complicated but they are "Warm Shades". Have you got any friend who calls you or texts you at say three in the morning asking you if you not sleeping and insists you to keep talking so that you'd sleep warm and cosy....Is it love? No, its emotional hesitation, no inhibition no curbing of feelings, no thought overs.
Emotionally attached people rig situations and confront odds with audacity. And if you feel emotionally attached people later get pain and suffering if not get reciprocated in same way are absolutely wrong...People emotionally attached are very strong and balanced.They can easily differentiate between emergence of Love feelings and Emotional attachment. If former takes place they know how to snub it or curb it if its not the same at the other side.Emotionally attached people mean no harm to anyone. They are ship of rescue for those who need emotional support.Even one person who is emotionally attached to you is your recurring account, multiplying your emotional strengths and helping you when you depreciate your morale and faith in love.
Never belittle yourself if you are emotionally attached to someone, rather bestow all your care and love. After all expectation is not in your list. 
" Emotional attachment flowers the tree of dried leaves."

Sangeeta Sharma

Sunday, 2 November 2014

Inner Voice

Drop awoke

See that tiny drop of tear
Not of submerged fear
Of last feel so strong clear
Crystal shine in divine
Letting hinterland profusely precise
Drop by drop that fall
Vanish lost and forlorn moan
Awoke in smile tired
The drop 
which wakes in bind
My inner strength calmly quiet
All tussle imprints in space find
Slumber was not in sleep light
But love loves the rest in sleep tight
Thank or pay gratitude not in mind
But owe something to the one my side of bright.
My side of bright in disguise.
Sangeeta Sharma

Saturday, 1 November 2014

Strength of self is always an epicenter of our self introspection. Is it really? Yes, the doubt has already crawled in hiding the most delicate attribute of our personality...Confidence. Most of my readers keep asking me the ways to accumulate self recognition power. I find them dwindling between  the area of self doubts for being fit for someone or something or in the periphery of being confident about someone or something.
To answer this I would like to first of all  explain what "self" actually is? Is it what you show as behavior, person or character to someone or is it buried feelings and sentiments which constitutes your self worth...self recognition.Surprised....but that's what we are. Aren't you? We carry always a baggage along, baggage of goodness, worthy of care, love, recognition and various other goody goody of our impression on others. But actual us never become transparent, it remains in the state of oblivion as it gives us security and sense of safety and also loads of self praise for being very intelligent and smart actors and actresses. Surprisingly, we bank upon this hiding game. And here we start marking line for series of self doubts, as we show what we are not and we hide what we want or like.Dear friends, opaqueness reflects ambiguity and vagueness. Don't fog your sanity, as qualm gets permanent and you tend to forget entirely about your real self, of which once you were proud of concealing. Here starts uneasiness, bad temperament, life in cocoon, slithering confidence,mistrust and above all self doubt. Swords of doubt and confidence shine high at this juncture. Who would win?...another doubt...doubt after doubt and answer is rather rhetorical.
I surely won't preach about being your real self, be what you are and etc. etc. etc....Dear friends, I am no saint to do so. And I am very clear about that.....if you can see doubt running and confidence victorious, you got your answer.
Self recognition is giving way to your real self. Create situations where, you are what you are and not what people want you to be. Self recognition , remember is for boosting your self confidence and to make someone happy , sadly we can never get success in making others contended of anything but we can make ourselves smiling at our own strengths and winning over our weaknesses.
Tapping self control can be an edge over but only if it reflects your self confidence otherwise it is nothing but crash of your self trust.....the seed of self recognition.
If you have doubt put it in zipper and forget. See yourself in mirror and say those three magical but effective words, "I LOVE YOU".........wait a sec.....still doubting.....dear friends its about loving yourself first.....fog is cleared and straight path without complexities and complications paves the way to you.....Just do it.

Sangeeta Sharma