Thursday, 6 November 2014

Warm Shades
                        


Emotional Attachment and Love

Yesterday while having conversation with a friend I landed up talking about something where " Emotional Attachment" was referred to. I have strong belief in emotional attachment ,whereas friend of mine believes that its not good.
Emotions.....brim bags of wonderful feelings which we carry all the time with us. Attachment......when somebody's emotions get cemented with others. Is it love? No, it is not as I  think. Though it is something open ended, but emotional attachment in no way is a feeling of love.
Emotionally attached person finds solace in the company of a person with whom he is emotionally attached. Trust, faith and confidence in his or her endeavors and suggestions beautify the relation. Expectations are not thorns of hurdles of growth but constructive expectations let each other rise from their ashes rather. Moreover, these emotions are not ropes or ties in other persons expansion of any sort of needs or desires.Not necessarily will it be two sided, as it is self less. Take example of a mother and son...emotionally attached and without words they word everything. When two human beings are emotionally attached they need not to give mortal feel to their bond, merely small caring gestures or instinctive understanding suffice. Expressive ability is not handicap of others approval, mood or circumstances. You are emotionally attached means you are bold in your rapport with the other,whereas you being in love get hesitant,restricted, limited and shy..perhaps.
 Emotional attachment is assurance of security, lasting relation and unbiased mutual comprehension. What we think, we feel, we aspire, we want and what we give to others is always a matter of concern of other but to disentangle us from its complications and complexities and not to offer us more puzzles to solve. They are not complicated but they are "Warm Shades". Have you got any friend who calls you or texts you at say three in the morning asking you if you not sleeping and insists you to keep talking so that you'd sleep warm and cosy....Is it love? No, its emotional attachment...no hesitation, no inhibition no curbing of feelings, no thought overs.
Emotionally attached people rig situations and confront odds with audacity. And if you feel emotionally attached people later get pain and suffering if not get reciprocated in same way ...you are absolutely wrong...People emotionally attached are very strong and balanced.They can easily differentiate between emergence of Love feelings and Emotional attachment. If former takes place they know how to snub it or curb it if its not the same at the other side.Emotionally attached people mean no harm to anyone. They are ship of rescue for those who need emotional support.Even one person who is emotionally attached to you is your recurring account, multiplying your emotional strengths and helping you when you depreciate your morale and faith in love.
Never belittle yourself if you are emotionally attached to someone, rather bestow all your care and love. After all expectation is not in your list. 
" Emotional attachment flowers the tree of dried leaves."

Sangeeta Sharma